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This post is really a note/reminder to me, but you are welcome to read it too 🙂

I have been very stressed out lately. Not because my life sucks or things aren’t working out the way I want them to. Actually, my reason is quite the opposite. I have great things happening in life. A lot of them. So many of them that I don’t get any time to stop, and take it all in.

Over time I have learned to cope with stress caused by the modern fast-life. The one thing that always works for me is to take a few minutes every day to reflect on life. The good. The bad. The pretty. The ugly. Everything!

Here are some things that work for me.

  • Breathe
  • Gratitude
  • Stay still and quite for sometime
  • Pet a dog
  • Spend time in nature/Go for a long walk by yourself
  • Blow bubbles
  • Write/Journal
  • Stretch
  • Drink a cup of good,strong coffee and feel the tingle in the toes
  • Hugs
  • Read
  • Lie in the sun
  • Bubble baths
  • Avoid negative people
  • Say a prayer (for someone else)

Why you should not give two fucks about people who don’t matter

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I would divide this world population in three categories –

  1. People who are totally unaware of your existence
  2. People who don’t like you, and
  3. People who do like you.

People in category 1 don’t even know you exist and don’t really care about what you do and what happens to you.

Category 2 consists of people who don’t really like you. And there is really nothing you can do to make them like you. They just won’t. The more you try to charm them, the more you will piss them off. And guess what, there will always be some buggers like that.

But you know what; you shouldn’t change yourself for these people. You do what you want to do. It’s okay to stand up for what you believe in. Without caring about what ‘others’ think of it. Cz you know what, ‘others’ already don’t like you.

Let me break this down for you nice and simple – When people don’t like you, what do you think happens. Correct. Nothing at all. Worst case scenario, they may get annoyed by you; which, if you think about it, only gives you more power over them. Right?

So why are you attempting to please them?

But hey, don’t you be feeling lonely already. There are people out there who care about you, and probably only you.

These are your friends, family and loyal customers. These are the people who should matter to you and you should be focusing on (Category 3). And to be honest, these people will support you in whatever you may choose to do anyway.

But keep in mind that relationships are weird. Although we know they are important, we tend to take these people for granted. It’s not just the men who like the chase, we all do. We all like to find new people to impress and once they become a part of category 3, we instantly stop caring about them as much as we should and move on to new targets (in category 1 and 2) to impress. That is the dirty truth.

For a moment, let’s assume that you actually forget about categories that don’t matter (1 and 2) and put all your effort into category 3, towards people who love you and care about you. These are the people you have made memories with. These are the people who stood by you when you fought against something you felt was wrong. These are your cheer leaders, your mentors, your teachers, your loved ones.

How would that feel?

What’s the point of this post, you ask? Well, it’s simple –

If you take your mind off of all the unimportant bullshit, you can have 100% of your heart and mind available to focus on people that are important to you. How liberating is that? Can you feel it?

The crux of this is – Get rid of unimportant horse shit from your life, and focus on what actually matters (to YOU).

Stop doing things to please people who probably have killed you three times in their dreams.

Stop living a life that boo-sayers say you should.

Explore a whole new world– one where anything you choose to do is fine as long as it isn’t seriously hurting you or anyone else.

Act on your dreams. NOW. There is no tomorrow. You have just one life and the time is limited. Don’t waste it doing things that don’t matter for people who don’t matter.

Know that whatever your heart desires you can achieve. The obstacle is inimportant (yes, that’s a word).

I can’t emphasize enough: The only person stopping you from being the best is YOU.

P.S. This sounds very cliched, and probably is a horrible way to end this post, but it is truer than true.

2013 resolution – Smile and be happy. That’s it.

After much thought and anticipation, I have come up with my final resolution list for 2013. Yes, about time.

I declare 2013 as the year of happiness! This year, I pledge to do anything and everything to make me a happy girl (Cz happy girls are the prettiest *Batting Eyelashes*).

Here is the first ever manifesto I made. I call it the happiness manifesto. If you too relate to this, feel free to print/download/link-back to it 🙂

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What are your resolutions for 2013? Care to share?

Have a wonderful, joyous and magnificent year ahead! XOXO

2012 Report Card

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There are two kinds of people in this world: Pro-resolution and Anti-resolution. To be honest, I couldn’t care less what category you fall into. All I know is that I am pro-resolution. Here is the list of my 2012 resolutions (and 2011 resolutions if you’re interested). Like I mentioned before, 2012 was a tough year for me. Let’s look at how I did overall…

#1 Travel more often – Check

2012 was year of traveling for me. I worked as a training consultant for a few months, which in simple terms means traveling four days a week for work. However, I don’t count that as traveling really. Traveling has a lot deeper meaning for me. But hey, my trip to Spain counts… Yes it does. Along with other trips within the country (e.g. San Francisco, cross country drive from Oklahoma to New York, New Orleans etc).

BONUS: My all new and improved travel blog is alive!

#2 Learn a new skill – In progress

Do conversational skills count? Estoy aprendiendo a hablar español. And I still need to work a lot on this!

#3 Make a difference in someone’s life – Check

Raised money for CRY-America on my birthday. Like a bawz! Insert ultra cool smiley here.

#4 Spend more time with Mother Nature – In progress

I don’t know what to say about this one. I try, but I could try harder.

#5 Try vegetarianism for one month – Check

See this.

#6 Meditate (more) – Check

I planned on getting Ekam. But guess what, I got Kriya and Fourth initiation as well. Yes that’s how awesome I am! Thank you. 🙂

#7 Read more often – Check

Finished reading twenty books in 2012! Feel free to browse through my reading list on Good Reads (on the right) if you’d like.

#8 Create an inspirational thinking space – In progress

There shall be a whole separate post about the challenges I am facing with this one.

#9 Start living a healthier and happier life – Check

I don’t think anyone can ever check this off of their list. Cz no matter how much I do to be healthier and happier, there is always going to be more potential 🙂 I marked checked it because I am definitely healthier and way happier than I was in 2011+early 2012.

#10 Do something impossible – Check

I think this was not a SMART goal to be put on my resolution list. But if I had to pick one thing that was uber-difficult for me to change, it’d be to quit impulse spending in the name of luxury. I think I did pretty good on this one actually. I became a minimalist. Although I still need to perfect the skill. It’s a process. A really long one.

So looks like I did great! Ima try not to break my arm patting my own back.

How was 2012 for you? What are your goals for 2013?

P.S. Next post will be a brand new list of resolutions for 2013. Yes.

Forgiveness is a funny thing – It warms the heart and cools the sting!

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They say forgive those who hurt you to free yourself from the pain. Of course, it’s easier said than done. How can you forgive someone who broke your heart? How can you forgive him who betrayed you? How can you forgive a cheater? A liar? And why should you? The son of a bitch deserves your anger, hatred and despise. He deserves to be punched in the throat. Sooo hard, that his teeth fall off his mouth like raindrops. And he should feel the same pain he once caused you.

Yes, you wish. But when you are angry with someone, what’s really happening is this–

Right now when you are bursting with anger and rage, the moron who caused you heartache is probably sitting on a rainbow eating skillets or may be got hit by a truck last week; who knows. The truth of the matter is that you guys don’t talk to each other anymore. And if you do, it’s not the same. The conversations are fake, uncomfortable and just plain awkward as both of you try so hard to prove to each other that ‘you’re cool’.

So what should you really do?

  • Suck it up. Really. If you are angry or hurt, just accept it. Who are you lying to anyway? Tell yourself how you really feel.
  • Let it out. Cry like a school girl, scream, punch the wall, club a baby seal, listen to eye of the tiger on repeat, lock yourself up in the bathroom, drink the whole bottle of jack, throw up, and cry-n-scream some more. Do whatever it takes to get the anger out of your system. Just do it.
  • Now that we are clear that you are hurt and angry, and want to kick this jerk in the nuts, next step is to know that you have no control over anyone else’s actions. Everyone acts per his or her level of intellect.
  • No one needs no pity party. Stop telling ‘the story’ over and over again. Puhleez!
  • Make a list – of all the good things that followed because of this awful incidence. You have suffered enough, now its time for reality check. Turn your perspective around and look at the situation from a totally new angle (third-person-view). From this place you will be able to see all the good and some great things about this situation. Write them down. All of them.
  • Time travel – think about that horrible situation you faced five years ago; and how helpless you felt then. How it took you weeks/months to get back to normal after that incidence. Now think about how you feel about that problem today. You will realize that today you don’t really feel anything about the situation that once shook your life. That’s exactly how you will feel about your current situation five years from now. In the bigger picture, it won’t even matter. All that will remain is the lesson you learned from it!
  • Untie yourself. At this very moment, what is the connection between you and the person who hurt you? The grudge you are holding against this person. This tie is not letting you move on. You are stuck, in the past; in an ugly situation.
  • Forgive yourself first. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. When we are hurt, we all make mistakes. You might have had too. You deserved a chance to do something foolish and not be judged; at least not by yourself. You are still awesome. And when the clouds part, you will so more awesome things in life. It’s just a matter of time.
  • Every time you catch yourself thinking about ‘the fiasco’, wish that jerk well (don’t call, just do it in your head!). Seriously. I know you’re no Gandhi, but by now your brain have been poisoned by anger and other negative emotions. It needs to be cleansed by calm and positive thoughts. The first twenty (or maybe 200) times this will feel insane, but don’t quit just yet; 201st time the wish will be heart felt. And this is when you will be at peace.
  • Always remember – by forgiving the fucktard, you are doing yourself a huge favor.

“Forgiving is not something you do for someone else. It is something you do for yourself. An unforgiven injury binds you to a time and place someone else has chosen; it holds you trapped in a past moment and in old feelings”– Carol Luebering

P.S. This may need a lot of practice, but it’s absolutely worth a try!!