Non-negotiable checklist for my future lover

I am dependent on checklists. You can blame it on my poor memory or on my desire to always perform with utmost efficiency and perfection. Ramit Sethi didn’t help any by recommending The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande. Whatever you pick as the excuse, the fact is that I live my life based on checklists. And damn right; I have a checklist for my future lover. So dear Mr.Future Lover, read on…

You should have a desire for personal growth. I don’t care about how dashingly hot you are. Or if you made a million dollars last year. Or if you are ‘the dude’. But I do hope that you read a little (books, internet, newspaper or something, anything). I hope you have personal and professional goals that you regularly work on. I hope when you achieve those goals, you set up some new ones. And I also hope that you respect my personal growth journey – cz I can tell you it’s not ending anytime soon.

You should be a mature human being. I know every man reading this is saying “Of course I am mature”. But really, are you? A serious relationship comes with great responsibility. I really hope you have made most of your major mistakes in life, learned from them and moved on. I hope you are self aware and strong – you will face new challenges in life confidently and will be the support system for me as well. And if we disagree upon something, which I’m sure we will, you should be able to disagree gracefully without holding grudges.

Respect my family. Accept my family. Mine might not be a perfect family; but whose is? We have our flaws, we have our problems, but at the end of the day – we are together and there for each other – no matter what. You would need to become a part of this mess. Get your hands dirty. And listen to my occasional rants. (Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you.)

You must be an explorer. We don’t need to have same interests and hobbies. I mean let’s get real, I will never be able to enjoy sports like a man and you would never enjoy a chick flicks like a girl. But as long as you are up for trying new things, traveling to new places, going to restaurants we’ve never been before and just exploring life and the world – you can be my man!

Sense of humor is a big one! For me cz I like to take things easy and find good humor extremely attractive. But for you too. If you can’t look at little things and find humor in it, your life with me might turn out to be extremely difficult. I am silly and a lot of times I can be a super awkward potato (I love saying awkward potato). And the best way to deal with it I’ve found is to just laugh it off.

You should be a kind, compassionate and respectful human being. You need to love me unconditionally – that comes without saying. But in addition to that, you must also be compassionate and respectful to people, animals, choices, religions and situations. Now I don’t need no Dalai Lama; but if you are an insensitive douche, it’s just not going to cut it for me. Sorry.

You should have a stable life. Not only financially, but also emotionally.

And last but not the least – We need to be attracted to each other. Notice I said WE. If I am attracted to you and you are not, I am going to find out (cons of dating a smart girl) – and of course, vice-versa.

P.S. I know it’s a gender unbiased list for the most part, but I am really hoping that my future lover is a man. Just a personal preference.

Shawty, you’re blessed!

Being 5’2, I have been subjected to all kinds of short-girl jokes and comments – some funny, others not so much. But at the end of the day, I think there are serious advantages of being short. Here are all the reasonable ones I could find:

  1. You’ll be a hot mamma – You will look younger than your peers and will be complimented for the rest of your life. Petites in general have better bodies. I still get ID-ed at the bars, and it’s such a joy I tell you.
  2. Airplane travel is never a pain – All airline seats have business class leg room for you. Never have to cram into the seat; cz there’s always enough space.
  3. You can stand up in airplanes without hitting your head.
  4. The bed is always bigger than it actually is.
  5. Your skin products will last longer (waddup long lasting bottle of expensive body lotion!)
  6. You can walk through small doors without hitting your head to the roof.
  7. At shows and concerts, people are more likely to let you get in front of them. All you have to do is – Ask.
  8. No dress is ever too short – You have the Fashion freedom like none other! You can put on the skimpiest outfit and it will still not be too-short or vulgar. Ever!
  9. You can wear the highest pair of heels and your guy will not have a problem with it; he’ll still be the taller one in the couple. Guys like that.
  10. People will always remember you cz you are so short.
  11. You will be forever cute!
  12. People don’t have complex issues with short people in general, cz they are never viewed as dominating or over powering. People like the fact that they don’t feel threatened in your company.
  13. You won’t have a problem finding a guy who’s taller than you.
  14. When it rains, we’re last to get wet.
  15. You will always have an excuse to get someone else to change light bulbs or get you stuff from the higher cabinets.
  16. Shorter people live longer – according to the World Health Organization study in 1992 – bigger bodies have more cells, and fewer potential cell doublings to replace defective or dead cells (so says the research).
  17. You can experience and react to the world faster than tall people (because of temporal binding).

Oh, and don’t forget your awesome companions in the journey of ‘shorties taking over the world’ – Salma Hayek, Kim Kardashian, Demi Lavato, Sarah Jessica Parker, Eva Longoria, Nicki Minaj (and of course Sowm!)…

So ladies, chin up and let’s get the party started!

30 Days of Giving Thanks – Day 12 – Travel

Today… I’m thankful for the means to travel. I am so blessed to be able to take some time off and travel, meet interesting people from different walks of life, see new places, gather memories and learn lessons of life; basically live my dream life for a few days. Thank you lord.

30 Days of Giving Thanks – Day 5 – Education

Today… I am grateful that my parents understand the importance of education and I was provided with a great education. The opportunity to attend college and graduate school is a privilege in a world where many countries refuse women the right to education (if not legally, socially). I am so lucky that for everything, from selecting my major to finalizing the university admissions, my family supported and helped me in every way they could.

A good education made me who I am and ensured that I live a responsible and independent life – And I am enjoying every bit of it!

The Mother’s Day Post

Satyamev Jayate – Aamir Khan Productions. Everyone is talking about it. What the heck is it anyway? Aamir Khan trying to make a TV presence before he’s too old for the movies – that was my first reaction. But one of my friends posted the female feticide episode of Satyamev Jayate on facebook, and I couldn’t help but watch it. This one-hour was a rollercoaster of emotions for me – hatred, anger, disappointment, pity, helplessness, fear, shock, pride and hope. It was like feeling all these emotions in the same moment.

I am a philanthropist. But every time I look around, there is so much in this world that needs to change. In the US, in India, in Africa, in China and everywhere in the world… Like Mr.Khan just said, there is hope – all these problems can be resolved in just one second; the second we change our minds. Just one second; that’s all it needs. Here is the video of Satyamev Jayate’s episode of female feticide. Please take time to watch it and turn the subtitles on if you need to. At the end of the show there is information on how to help!


Also, here is an open letter to Aamir Khan. I am taking the liberty to write this on all my readers’ behalf; please feel free to chime in:

Dear Aamir,

Hope you are doing great. Actually, we think you are! I am talking about your show Satyamev Jayate (re: female feticide). Thank you for bringing this topic up to millions of people and connecting the dots to let us know how big this problem is. Your show has made us realize that everyone of us is a part of the problem, everyone of us is affected by this and everyone of us is important enough to play a part in it’s resolution as well. Thank you.

Also, consider this letter an open support to the cause. I know most of the people reading this are probably not living in India. But that doesn’t mean we can’t help. We are willing to take a stand and do everything we can to stop sex selective abortion.

Again, thank you and best wishes. I hope we can make this world a better place.


Readers – The Labyrinth

P.S. I am going to send this out to my contacts. Readers, please do the same. I appreciate the support.